What are Your Core Values

Hello dearies,

I was chatting with a friend of mine some time back. Actually she's one of my sewing mentors and encourager ( i don't think there's a word like encourager). She explained to me how the name of her sewing outfit is acronym for her core values. And that got me thinking, in fact i told her i wasn't sure if i had any.

Being a methodical person, i decided to find out more about what a Core Value actually means, and also to map out one for myself and my family

If you visit the website of most companies, You will see their Core Values under the 'About' Page. Some companies don't explicitly write their Core Values, however they summarize it in their Mission Statement

So what does Core Values mean?

A dictionary meaning i got from the web is "A principle that guides an organization's internal conduct as well as its relationship with the external world. Core values are usually summarized in the mission statement or in a statement of core values." - businessdictionary.com

Some people say, its the morals they live by, or its my guiding principle.
What does it mean to you?

From the above, we can see that its a principle,a personal decision or guideline on how you intend to live, work, or associate with people.

Some friends i shared this with, said they do have a 'motto' they live by, like a code of conduct. I remember watching the movie #Godfather, ( its a very popular Mafian movie by Mario Puzo). That movie is way older than I, but its the most popular mafian movie. It starred Marlon Brando and Al Pacino as the lead character  Don Vito Corleone. That movie is a classic. (If you haven't watched it, please watch it this upcoming Christmas Holiday..and thank me later. lol)

So from the movie, we can see that the mafians have a code of conduct. They have a way of living. For them 'Family' is key..'Loyalty' is a must. I dare say those were their core values.

How does it affect me.

After giving it much thought, i realized that unconsciously i do have a way i live, work, play and associate with people.

I know i like to be fair in my judgement, truthful to a fault sometimes. Most times i believe the best of people ( to my detriment) and i relate with open and sincere hearts to those around me. I believe in being kind and polite, except if prompted to act otherwise.

But practically, i asked myself...have i consciously made decisions and acted based on my unconscious values? The answer is NO.


Are Core Values Permanent

While writing this post, I asked myself, are core values permanent? or do we from time to time change our core values. For me.. i would say NO, my reason being that, we are faced with new situations, new challenges in our journey of life, and as we go we learn new things, discover new things and continually make changes in our lives. As a result, there is a very high possibility that our core values will change as changes occur in our lives.

Personally, my recent experience with the death of my mum has changed my perspective on things and people, and i know it would affect my values

What are my new Core Values 

I have decided to live by a new set of values, and these values i will pass on to my children. These values are going to be jointly formed by hubby and I.

Hey!!!! where you waiting for me to tell you what there are? heheheheee....No no no...I need to consult Mr Hubby first.


So back to you my dearies, what's your thoughts on core values. Do you have some? do you think there are necessary? If you do, let's hear them.  Let's teach each other a thing or two..

GOD bless you SILLY

#RealityCheck- Why are Women SO Gullible

Please mind my anger as i write this post. Its just that an VEXED to my teeth.. As in, i cant just understand why women can be so gullible.

Is it that we refuse to learn from Life, or other people's mistakes? Or is it that we deceive ourselves into thinking it's not gonna happen to us, or we won't make the same mistakes twice?

'Chai.......this na holy anger oooo'.

So here's the gist,

This is a true life story that someone i know told me. I told her i was going to share it on my blog, and she had no objection, except that i don't use her real name.

She was in JS 2 in the village when she met her boyfriend. He was also a student in the school. It was young love. The kind of love that makes you think the world will end if you don't see each other. Am sure a lot of us watch movies like that on Africa Magic, where Ini Edo's character is hopelessly in love with Jim Ikye's character, and they take a blood oath that they will love each other till death do them part. 'hian'.... well it was that kind of love.

This love blossomed for a while until about 9 months later, when she was in JS 3 and he in SS 3 that she got pregnant. Nneoma was very optimistic that her lover boy, Ugo, would accept the pregnancy and they would start their life in the Village, with hopes of a better tomorrow..hehehehe...this thing called 'HOPE'

Well, Nneoma was shocked to the marrow when Ugo told her to go abort the pregnancy, because he wants to finish his education, and isn't ready for Fatherhood or Husband hood yet.( But he knew how to do the things husbands do. hehehehe). Nneoma refused to abort the pregnancy, and as their custom is, her relations took her to Ugo's father's house as a new bride, whose bride price had not been paid.

So it was, that she was living with Ugo's family as a forced new wife. During this period, Ugo finished his secondary school, and left the village to Abuja, in search of greener pastures. He did not accept responsibility of the child,neither did he fend for Nneoma or her unborn child.

Nneoma was heartbroken..(am sure you can picture a village girl with big tummy, crying herself to sleep, refusing to eat and wishing for the ground to open up and swallow her.) After 9 months she gave birth to a baby girl.

And as is the tradition of women. (God bless us, we are strong and full of character). She started working to take care of her child. She farmed, wove cane baskets, made brooms, fried cassava flour..did all sorts just to make ends meet.

Fast forward to 2 years later, Ugo shows up in the village, meets her ,apologises for all his wrong doings,buys her gift and promises to take care of her and the daughter, because as he claims, he now works as a security guard in a big company in Abuja. Nneoma, being an innocent, naive, love-struck girl welcomes him back into her life and gives him a chance.(Nothing wrong with that)

Before you say Jack Robinson....Nneoma is pregnant AGAIN...and you know what....Ugo told her to abort the pregnancy a second time.....she refused..and he took to his hills...Zap!!!! He left the village and went back to Abuja... so dear Nneoma is left AGAIN with a pregnancy and a child to take care of.
This time around she tried aborting the pregnancy, but it was unsuccessful. She almost lost her life in the process.

Her family called Ugo's number several times, he didnt pick...and his family refused to have anything to do with Nneoma...

So my dear pitiable Nneoma, is heavy with no money. Her elder sister who lives in a suburb in abuja, told her to come to Abuja. So that was how i met her and her sister relayed the story.

My question to her was HOW? WHY? How did she allow herself to be fooled AGAIN?

Now some of you may say, its because she's naive, or because she is a village girl. But i have actually met some intelligent women, who do some stupid things, and accept some rubbish in the name of LOVE.

For example, it never ceases to amaze me, why a woman would be all over a man who clearly doesn't love her. Or a man who beats her black and blue..or a man who is always collecting money from her in the name of 'help', or a full grown adult man who dates a full grown grown woman for years without defining their relationship, or a full grown man who says 'i love you' but am not sure your the right woman for me..after dating for 2 years, can we continue our relationship while i figure out my feelings......Heck No.

Then, i asked myself the question..Why are women so gullible? WHYYYYY

Dear Woman, Please Be Patient..Patience is a Virtue.

Dear Woman,

Please be patient.

I am writing you this letter. Yes You Woman reading this post, or you Man who has a wife, girlfriend, sister, daughter, niece, friend, female colleague etc.

This is a letter from my heart to you. I write you this letter because God laid it in my heart to share with you what he has been teaching me these past months.

Can i ask you a question? Please answer sincerely within your heart? Do you have challenges you cant talk to anyone about? Do you have challenges you have been praying to God about? Do you sometimes think that God doesn't hear your prayers? or may be His not just ready to answer you yet? Or maybe you are not praying well? Do you? If you do? or maybe He answers, but you haven't heard him? then my dear friend..i have good news for you.

Its called Patience.

In the past couple of months i have learnt a few lessons from my life experiences, and one of those lessons is Patience.

I have actually learnt to be patient with life's situation, especially when i know i have prayed to God about it. I have learnt that God cannot be rushed and His timing is perfect.

I have learnt that He (God) wants us to be patient with HIM, and not expect a NOW NOW response at all times. Of course, they are some things that God would do for us NOW NOW, but there are some that require patience.

A part of the bible actually says our light afflictions are for a while..that means our light afflictions require a little bit of time,hence patience from us.

One thing i have come to realize is that, eventually it would turn out JUST right. Please don't get me wrong...some things require QUICK action, but some things require patience....because 'its working out for our good'

So, in your marriage, you need patience, in your career..patience, in your finances...patience, dealing with friends..patience, dealing with in-laws..patience, achieving your dreams...patience, requiring a miracle..patience.

Hey!!! I hope i don't sound all spiritual and emotional ..loll.....its just sometimes, there's need for sober reflection.

So i say, God bless you SILLY!!

Movie Review 'THINK LIKE A MAN TOO'

Hello dearies,


Its December already!!!! how time flies. I don't know about you, but i love December, not because its Christmas, and Christmas means Love, Sharing etc...but because Christmas means HOLIDAYS!!!!!!!

So in the Spirit of HOLIDAYS, i have already started enjoying myself and giving myself a treat.

The last couple of months have been sad and sorrowful for me (Y'all know i lost my mum), but i am determined to enjoy myself this December, and get my 'happy-mojo' back.

On Monday, i spent the evening with a dear friend of mine, and we watched the movie 'Think Like a Man TOO'

I totally enjoyed the movie. It was hilarious, bubbly, and had a nice cast.

I particularly like that, unlike the first installment, it was a more mixed cast with a fair share of white actors and actresses.

But....even though i enjoyed it, i still think PART 1 was better.

I mean, the story line in Part 1 was well defined and made COMPLETE sense. Most if not all ladies who watched that movie learnt a thing or two from it. (Raise your hands if you agree)

Also, the dialogues of PART 1 was more hilarious and 'put-together'. Every character's story was well defined and articulated. We clearly understood 'the mummy's boy', 'the dreamer', 'the non-commital', 'the playboy', 'the good husband', 'the divorcee'. We all know or have heard of someone like that..don't we?

However, in this Part 2..i really couldn't understand their characters, except that the movie portrayed that they carried on with their new found loves, and homes.

I also didn't understand Gabrielle Union and her hubby's role..I mean what exactly was the issue with their marriage?

Somehow, i got lost in between the craziness of Las Vegas, Kevin Hart's hotel suite and all the bruhahahaha.

Hey, am not saying the movie isn't nice, but the first installment is better. That's my own opinion.

Finally, a plus for PART 2. I liked the makeup and fashion of the ladies too...even the men looked dapper. The bribe's wedding dress is simple and chic. The stylist did a great job.

Please look out for Kevin Hart's ankara shirt and short. ( I believe its Ankara)...i would love to make that for my hubby.

So dearies... thats my opinion of the movie.. what's yours?

GOD BLESS YOU SILLY

Am back blogging ..Yippee!!!!!

Hello dear friends and readers,

As i informed you the last time,i lost my mum and took time off to grieve and attend to the burial ceremony.

Well, it was and is still a painful period.No one can replace a mum.

Although am still mourning her loss, but i have decided to resume blogging, and share my experiences during this period.

One thing i know for sure, my mum would definitely want me to move on with my life and enjoy every moment of it..so that's what am gonna be doing.

So, i wish myself a WELCOME BACK...hehehehhe......

I have made some amazing friends on blogosphere. Friends who don't know me, but called me and sent their condolences to me.


Shout out to Erniesha Tibs, who actually called me to encourage me, and her husband too...Kisses mami!!!
Shout out to Beautiful eagle....keep soaring!!!
Shout out to Afolabi Tosyne.....u rock gal!!!
Shout out to naija housewife........kissess!!!
Shout out to SuperLux...one love!!!
Shout out to omolara jimoh....u know i love u dearie..

So click here new post. Its a movie review, i hope you enjoy it.





God bless you SILLYYYYY!!!!!