Tuesday 15 May 2012

Its called Sex..But what really is Sex?

What really is sex? In this present world, Sex can be defined in several ways. The question about what Sex is has become an argument. Why is it an argument? The reason is that sex has become diversified.

Sex has always been defined as the penile-vaginal intercourse. But what about oral sex, anal sex and all the other sexes?

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as “sexually motivated behavior.” This sounds right to me. But not everyone agrees with the dictionary. People all have their own definitions of what “sex” and “having sex” means.

Your definition of Sex is dependent on your philosophy. I personally do not have a definition of Sex in the present world, but i can define sexual relations. Being sexual with another person — whether that means kissing, touching, or intercourse — involves a lot of responsibility.

Whats your definition of sex? Do you belong to the new school of diverse thoughts of sex..or are you 'old-school'?

This responsibility has a way of affecting our personalities, hence before sexual relations are established, before that line is crossed, think carefully.

One thing is certain, Sex in the right environment- an environment of love and respect. Sex is beautiful in the environment of Marriage.

Those are my thoughts on Sex, whats yours?

Next we'll be looking at myths about sex. Do you have any? i've got a lot of them

Friday 11 May 2012

Can you talk to him?


Hello People....


Its been a while i wrote anything on this interesting blog. I used the word "Interesting", because it promises to be interesting and exciting.

During the last week i overhead some high school students within the ages of 14-16 talking about the Sex Education classes in their school. I was excited as i thought to myself that it is a good development. A whole lot of us never had such discussions whether at school or at home.

 Sex talk was a big taboo. This mentality of Sex being a sacred topic, made us, even as grown women reluctant to talk about it, especially with the people that matter most.

I realized that issues about sexuality and relationships are very interesting. Especially for the women folk, who hold back discussing such issues.


I was prompted to have a chit-a-chat with some girlfriends and we got talking about relationships. Of course, its a topic we talk about 70% of our time together, but the twist to the gist was when we started talking about sex in a relationship.


In the course of the conversation, i found out that women enjoy discussing sex with their girlfriends, but not with him. Him, is that special man in their lives. By special i mean husbands, fiance or boyfriends. A lot of women have difficulties expressing their sexual preferences to the men in their lives.


Call me old-fashioned or traditional, i am of the opinion that sexual relationships should be kept for the Marriage bed. Hence, it is of my opinion that wives should be able to express their sexual feelings to their husbands.


Talk to him about what you want, how you feel and your present mood. Remember, sex is ordained by God. It is a beautiful act  that brings intimacy in a marriage.


Learn to talk to and with him.

Do you have practical experiences of your sexual intimacy with your spouse. Please feel free to drop a comment. Lets talk