You call it Modernization, I call it Infidelity

Recently i read a story on one of the soft sell Magazines about a married woman who was seeking advice from people regarding her marriage. What i gathered from the gist is that, her husband is a political agent, and a consequence of his hob-nobbing in the corridor of power is that he is seldom at home. He travels most weekends to attend to Political engagements, and even when he is in town, he gets home in the early hours of the day and jets out just before noon.

Further on in the story she stated how she met the man on one of her sojourns at those political parties, and how when they just got married, life was rosy. She is seeking advice from the public because during one of those lonely nights without her husband, she decided to hang out with some of her friends at a popular outdoor place. It was there she met a young man who has capitivated her heart and given her the attention she so desires.

Based on what she wrote, the guy gives her all the time, attention and showers her with love.He buys her gifts and takes her out to exotic restuarants, visits her at home and takes her kids to the park. Infact her kids have come to know him as 'uncle'. Ofcourse, without being told, it is obvious she shares her matrimonial bed with him, and from the look of things she has fallen head over heels in Love.

Her dilenma, should she leave her husband to be with this new-found love, or shoud she continue with the clandestine relationship? Seeing that her husband is not even aware of such happenings. He doesnt seem to give a damn, and she suspects he has his numerous concubines who keep him company in his so-called 'political meetings'.

First of all, she turned to her friends, and as they say 'Birds of the same feather flock together', her friends have told her to carry on with the relationship. Stating that she can eat her cake and have it. Her husband provides her with the money to enjoy the luxurious lifestyle, and her #TOYBOY like a friend put it, provides her the the TLC she needs to put body and soul together. Her friends have made her to understand that 'this is modern times'. In these times, Men can cheat and Women can cheat also. They call is 'Modernization'.

She needs our advice..so here is my advice to dear Mrs...its not Modernization, its pure Infidelity. And as an african woman, the bedrock of the home, it is a taboo. Our culture does not allow it, Christianity does not approve of it, and am sure Islam doesnt either. Your husband may be cheating, but that doesnt mean you should cheat, becuase when you do you welcome evil into your home.

Also, before she married him she knew his lifestyle, she attended those political parties with him. She enjoyed it then, do you really think he was going to change because he married you? Common.......

Thats my candid advice..no mincing words..

My readers, what's your take?